woah bummer for everyone not making out with me right now
I literally cannot stop thinking about this boy. God help me. I guess we’re going to dinner on Sunday? Totally got back into this shit thinking it was just sex, then my brain’s like, “LOL NOPE you are batshit crazy about him and always have been.” Too bad homie’s so sketcccch.
“White people are a minority”
do you even go to public places
“YOU, YOU, HER-NONE of these negros saved me. NONE of these negros saved me!”
Yo I just want to get everything she said tattooed on my body
gave me chills
The most important part of this incredible, incredible video is at 3:19. It is not “all you can get”. It is confidence and the will to go take. When you go take it what are you willing to sacrifice?
SISTER SOULJAH, the underrated black Shero of the 90s.
Why is brother Cornel West fighting her on this, though?
“The question becomes that when white people feel serious and angry about abortion, they come out in the thousands—up to the millions—to say, ‘This is what we believe about abortion.’ WHERE IS THE WHITE OUTCRY AGAINST WHITE RACISM THAT MURDERS AFRICAN PEOPLE ALL AROUND THIS ENTIRE GLOBE? It doesn’t exist. SO WHO ARE THESE WHITE GOOD PEOPLE? I WANT TO MEET THEM. I want to see them.”
Daaamn, I just got schooled. Want to watch the whole video now.
What does it say about thrid-wave feminism’s “yes means yes!” model of enthusiastic consent when the best sex I’ve ever had is with someone who has never asked me anything? Who just goes and does things that drive me crazy? I want a really aggressive, dominant partner in the bedroom, and I feel like you can only simulate that to a point. At some point, you just have to actually dominate me. Take over. Bend me to your will. Not fake for my sake, not negotiated. Just. Fuck. Me.
So, my questions are:
1) Are some women so reticent and passive in bed that they can’t say “hey, don’t do that” when things go too far?
2) Am I completely letting the patriarchy win because the kind of sex I like doesn’t fit into the politically correct bubble? Am I bad feminist for how I choose to fuck? (Or, more appropriately, be fucked?)
I don’t know, I’m a big girl and I’m having a great time, but I guess it makes me question some things. I don’t think the model of enthusiastic consent is wrong, and I don’t think I’m wrong. Are there times when we can let it lapse?
i have no problem with pointing out that anyone of any gender can be an abuser, rapist, pedophile etc because that’s absolutely true.
but the problem with always emphasizing “yes but it happens to everyone, not just women (or people of colour, or trans* people, etc)!” is that it depoliticizes the issue.
violence is not an accident, it is reflective of social power relations that permeate society at every level